Ken & Brenna
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Loving couple in Rochester, NY looking to adopt a baby from anywhere in the United States.

We are a New York Couple from the Finger Lakes Region Hoping to Start a Family Through Adoption!

Hello from Rochester, NY!

We are Brenna and Ken from Rochester, NY. We hope that as you browse through our adoption profile, you get a sense of the loving home and family we have for a child. We are both looking incredibly forward to growing our family through adoption.

We can only begin to understand that you may be looking at our adoption profile with some difficult decisions ahead of you. We really appreciate you taking this time to consider us. We can imagine that getting to know a family through an adoption profile may have some limitations. We really would love for you to reach out to us if you just want to chat or learn more about us… or even if you just want to ask us a random question.

Regardless of the choice you end up making, we hope that somewhere along the way something ends up just “feeling right”… And with that feeling you find some relief and peace knowing that you are making the best decision (whatever it may be).

Brenna & Ken

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A Little About Us

We met in 2012. Ken had just moved to South Florida for his post-doc, which happened to be in the same clinic Brenna worked in during graduate school. We connected almost immediately and have been together since. This is why we both happen to be pediatric psychologists (and likely always have and always will work together). In 2015 we were able to both get wonderful jobs at a medical center in Rochester, NY. We were happy to settle in Rochester, as Brenna is from the area and we are closer to some family and friends. We got married in 2016 in the Finger Lakes (a special place to us), and bought our home together in Rochester in 2018.

One thing we feel most proud about is the strong relationship and marriage we have built together. We hope this will serve as a solid foundation for children and a future family. Ultimately, we both really respect and value one another. We really are best friends. We even survived a lock down and pandemic together without getting sick of each other!

We’d say we are a “modern” family. Ken has two (now adult — hard to believe!) children, Noelle and Micah, who live in Maine and visit regularly for holidays and vacation. We really value the traditions we have established, and can’t wait to continue these traditions and create new ones with a child. One of our favorite times of year is hosting family for Thanksgiving, and then “making” our family trek for miles for the perfect Christmas tree (think National Lampoons Christmas Vacation)!

Perhaps our most valued time and memories are from our trips and travel together. We have been very fortunate to travel to many wonderful places, and hope we can continue these memories with a growing family. We also love our home, and exploring and enjoying the lakes and nature that surrounds us.

At a Glance: 10 Things to Know About Us

How to Get in Touch:

We are potential adoptive parents Ken and Brenna from Rochester, NY.  We are currently looking to adopt a child. We may be reached through our adoption agency, Friends in Adoption and will gladly answer any questions that you may have for us. We are hopeful, eager, and legally approved to adopt a baby anywhere in the United States, and we hope to hear from you! 🙂
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About Brenna

—as written by Ken

“I think the number one thing that makes Brenna, Brenna is her big heart. She is a very compassionate person, always wanting to help and stand up for those who may need it. She is a lover of all animals, and a huge lover of children. She is very passionate about the work she does helping children with special needs. Brenna will always go the extra mile to care for those closest to her. She is a natural nurturer. One of her favorite things is hosting family or close friends and cooking/baking for them; she is an amazing cook, and I am happy to be her assistant (it is better for everyone that way)!

Brenna also has a playful and silly side to her, which brings a lot of life to our home. She is always up for trying new things and visiting new places, and loves looking for a new travel spot or planning a weekend adventure. Like me, she loves being outside and near water. However, she is also a big fan of pajamas and a comfy couch with a snuggly dog. Despite her brains, she loves indulging in mindless reality television (and sometimes I get sucked in too).

When Brenna is with children, you can see she is in her natural element. Her ability to care for children of all ages and abilities gives me great confidence in how she will be as mom. She seems to have a special ability to communicate with and understand children and their needs. She is tender, nurturing, and patient with children. She can also be very fun and vibrant in her interactions with children, and has a special ability to make kids laugh. As a parent, I know she will be present and attentive, and will help me to do the same. I have no doubt watching Brenna as a mother will be one of the greatest joys of my life.”

Brenna is a very compassionate person, always wanting to help and stand up for those who may need it.”

—Ken

About Ken

—as written by Brenna

“If I had to pick one word to describe Ken, it would be ‘Kind’. Ken has a very gentle, laid-back, and calming demeanor. He is extremely patient. My family always asks me questions like ‘does Ken ever get rattled??’ He does — but only I can probably tell when he is! These traits make Ken perfect for what he does for a living.

Ken is a pediatric psychologist. He works with kids with special needs, such as autism. He mostly helps kids and families who are struggling to manage their child’s behavior. He is so passionate about this work and helping these kids and families. These traits also make Ken a fantastic father to his two (now adult) children, Micah and Noelle. He loves his kids SO much. If you talk to him about them, he will most likely tear up instantly with love. Despite being long-distance, he has always prioritized maintaining a closeness with his kids — regular phone calls, care packages for every holiday, regular visits and vacations throughout the year, and even learning how to use Snapchat! As they have grown into young adults, I see the special and unique relationship Ken has forged with each of them.

I know Ken will be a fantastic father to a new baby. For starters, he already is a dad, and I see every day how much he loves and cares about his children. He is the soft and kind-hearted father I always wanted for my children. He is such a natural with kids, with so much patience, flexibility, and a good sense of humor. He really does light up when he is with children. I know he will be an equal caregiver. He is looking so forward to having the opportunity to raise a child again, and I know he intends to cherish it.

In his free time, Ken enjoys relaxing and spending time outdoors while listening to music. He loves water — pools, lakes, oceans — any kind. His ideal day is a day outside at a beach with family. Ken also likes going for walks with our dog, Fred, and running. I think he actually enjoys yard and house work too (?), and usually has some project going on. He is also a big movie buff and is always trying to get me to go to the movies or rent something with him — usually I leave that up to Fred (our dog) and Micah (his son)!”

Ken is the soft and kind-hearted father I always wanted for my children.”

—Brenna

Our (Grown) Kids

Ken has two (now adult) children, Micah and Noelle. They primarily reside in Maine, but visit us often throughout the year.

Noelle is the oldest of the two. She actually goes to college in New York (although the pandemic prevented her from being there physically the past couple years — she is excited to be heading back in person for her Junior year). She takes after Ken in many ways. She is observant, inquisitive, and thoughtful. She has always had a passion for learning. She loves to read, and loves art and theatre. She also has an adventurous side, and is always finding new opportunities to travel and see the world.

Micah is the younger one, and recently graduated from high school. Micah and Noelle are somewhat opposites, although they both take after Ken in different ways. Micah enjoys the outdoors and working with his hands. He takes after Ken in his big heart and patience. He enjoys animals and has an affinity for children (much like Ken). He also has a very silly sense of humor.

Messages from Noelle and Micah

My name is Noelle. I am currently a Junior in college studying Sociology. In my free time, I like reading, hiking, and painting. Our family has done lots of fun activities over the years. Some of my favorite include snorkeling, exploring NYC, and our annual Christmas tree hunt. I also love when we have relaxing beach days and movie nights together. I am excited by the prospect of welcoming a baby into our family and creating new memories!”

-Noelle

Ken's daughter

Hi, my name is Micah. Ken is my dad. I love to hang out with my friends and go fishing, and generally be in the woods. I also love watching movies and playing board games. Whenever I visit my Dad and Brenna I enjoy going on walks, having movie nights, eating at different restaurants, and talking about our day-to-day lives. I look forward to having a baby brother or sister because I love children and I am always happy to have another family member to love.”

-Micah

Ken's son

Our Home

We settled in Rochester, New York, in 2015. Brenna grew up in a small town in upstate NY and we were happy to move to the area to be closer to some family and friends. At first, we really didn’t think much of Rochester (especially coming from warm and sunny Florida!) but we have grown to love this little city and our community!

We love going downtown and visiting the shops, cafes, farmers markets, and restaurants. But perhaps our favorite part of Rochester is the beautiful nature that surrounds it. We love finding new trails to hike on — to be honest though, we are probably more “trail strollers” than serious hikers.

Our absolute favorite part of where we live is that we are only a few minutes from some beautiful beaches of Lake Ontario, where we visit throughout the seasons. We both love the beach! Brenna’s parents also live on Canandaigua Lake, where we love spending time in the summer, and can’t wait to bring a child someday.

We have taken great joy in making our old house into a warm and welcoming home. Our home is located in a quaint neighborhood outside of the city. We live on a beautiful tree-lined, lamp-lit street. Our neighborhood is very family friendly. In fact, our street is famous for its over-the-top Halloween decorations. We look forward to decorating and our 1500+ trick-or-treaters every year for Halloween (we were warned when we moved in, and it really is insane — and we absolutely love it!).

We get pretty into decorating our home for all holidays and seasons. In the summer, we love hanging out in our backyard by our pool and grilling outside every evening the weather allows. Behind our backyard is a walking path that leads to the neighborhood elementary school and a brand new playground. During the long Rochester winters, we love nothing more than to cozy up with our dog Fred, heat some tea, light some candles, and relax by our fireplace.

Our Area (Rochester, NY):

Our Friends and Family

We are fortunate to have many loving and supportive people in our lives, both friends and family (and friends who feel like family). Every family member and friend we have shared our adoption news with has been incredibly supportive and so excited to welcome a baby.

Brenna’s parents live close by, and will likely be very involved with the baby. We both have family scattered across the country, and some even outside the country. Ken grew up living many places, as his family was in the military. He spent a lot of his childhood in Panama and Southern Texas. Ken’s mother, brother and sister-in-law, and nephews all still live in Texas, and his father lives all the way in Scotland (it is fun to visit though!). Ken has other relatives we sometimes visit in Colorado. Brenna’s sister and many other family members live in Florida. We can’t complain when we have to visit them in January-March!

We have many friends here and close to Rochester, but we also have friends in lots of other states (Florida, Nebraska, Pennsylvania, Maryland). There is never a shortage of people/places to visit, and we love hosting our friends here in Rochester too. We have many friends who have recently started families, and we can’t wait for future get-togethers with babies and small children. Our colleagues have also become a second family to us here in Rochester — they are so supportive and many have become our dearest friends. We enjoy regularly hosting friends for brunch or dinner, and usually have a couple work parties at our house per year, such as a summer barbeque and Christmas party.

A Message from Fred:

And, of course, there’s also Fred, our fur kid, who is an integral part of our family. If Fred could talk, we are pretty sure that this is what he would have to say:

Hi- I’m Fred. I was adopted from a local humane society by my mom and dad in 2016. They say I am over 10 years old now, but I don’t feel it! I love humans — all humans! And I love attention. I can’t get enough snuggles, and the more people to pet me and snuggle me around, the better! I am kind of a bum, and love to spend my days napping on the back cushions of the chairs and couches (not the way furniture is meant to be sat on, but the most comfortable way for sure!). I also love my yard, going for daily walks, my toys, and visiting with my grandma/grandpa and my human brother and sister (Micah and Noelle). Have I mentioned I love humans?”

-Fred

Our fur kid

Our Passion (Work)

We debated including a page about our work in our adoption profile, as what we have to offer a child is so much more than work. However, our work is really our passion, and is a big part of who we are.

We are both pediatric psychologists, who specialize in working with children with special needs, such as autism. We both feel passionate about improving the lives of these children and their families, and advocating for people with disabilities. We hope to instill similar values for inclusivity in a child one day.

We work together, and we do some of the same things, but we also do many different things. Most of Ken’s work is helping children with challenging behavior or children in crisis. He also does a lot of work educating other providers, like doctors and teachers, on how to best care for children with special needs. Much of Brenna’s work focuses on making sure children at-risk are developing, such as babies who were born very prematurely, and helping children with special needs with early intervention.

Our work is always interesting (never dull!) and we feel so fulfilled doing what we do. We are lucky to have some flexibility in our hours, with freedom to work from home some days, and a surprising number of vacation days. It is a supportive work environment. We also love the people we work with, and consider them a second family. A baby in our family would have no shortage of baby/child-loving experts in their life — we sure hope that’s a good thing!

How We Hope to Raise a Child

We have always wanted to have a child together, and are looking so forward to this next chapter. Eventually we imagine having two children, but will start with one first! We do believe we have a beautiful life to offer a child. We have been fortunate to be able to establish a beautiful home and a loving relationship to bring a child in to. We also both just love children so much.

If you choose adoption for you and your baby, we think it is so important that you understand how your child will be raised, and that it really resonates with you. Therefore, we think this is the most important information we could share with you about us:

Ultimately, we strongly believe childhood is such a precious thing. We were both really fortunate to have secure and loving childhoods, with many happy memories. We believe a happy childhood with loving relationships is such a protective factor for a person’s well-being throughout their life.

We believe in letting children just be children. Childhood should be fun and carefree, full of play, creativity, and love. We believe our job as parents will be to fiercely protect the magic of childhood. However, we will also do our best not to be “helicopter” or “lawnmower” parents (or parents who “mow” down all obstacles for their child). We instead want to support a child’s ability to problem-solve and cope, as this will help them become confident and resilient adults.

We also believe it is our job to support the child in discovering who they are, as an individual… with their own unique passions and strengths. We hope to help a child become the best version of the little human they were made to be.

We both really value education and learning. We believe learning happens in many ways…. through play, friendships, exploration, and diverse exposure, as well as through formal education. We acknowledge that the path we took with higher education is not for everyone — so we want that door to be open for a child, along with many other possibilities.

We observe Christian holidays and really value tradition, but we do not consider ourselves religious. We think this is important for you to know, if you do have religious preferences for how your child is raised. We take pride in having strong morals and values that we hope to instill in a child. Some characteristics we value the most are honesty, integrity, kindness, and compassion.

Our Fun Facts

Brenna's Fun Facts

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Brenna's Fun Facts

Occupation: Pediatric Psychologist
Hobbies: Cooking, Baking, Going for Walks, Traveling
Places: The Finger Lakes, Portugal, Florida
Foods: Indian Food, Tapas, Sushi
Music: Indie Rock, Indie Folk, Electronica

Ken's Fun Facts

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Ken's Fun Facts

Occupation: Pediatric Psychologist
Hobbies: Playing Guitar, Running, Traveling
Places: The Beach, Our Backyard, Parga (in Greece)
Foods: Brenna’s Chocolate Chip Cookies, Pizza, Fish Tacos
Music: Alternative, Indie Folk, 90s Grunge

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Our Gratitude

We really appreciate you taking this time to look at our adoption profile. We hope you left our profile with a good sense of who we are and that we have a lot of love and a happy life to give a baby. We are looking so forward to adopting a baby and both believe adoption is really special — a beautiful example of strangers coming together to help one another. If you want to get to know us more or have any questions, we would be so happy to hear from you. We truly wish you all the best in the steps ahead, with whatever choice you end up making.

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Information About the Adoption Process:

We are potential adoptive parents Brenna and Ken from Rochester, NY. We are a loving couple eager to build our family as we hope to adopt a baby and share our love with a child. We have been legally qualified to be adoptive parents and will provide additional details about ourselves upon request. We are home-study approved! We are hopeful, eager, and legally approved to adopt a baby anywhere in the United States, and we hope to hear from you! We are very excited by the prospect of building our family through adoption! Please feel free to pass along our information by sharing our adoption profile on your social media pages, or email your friends. ~ Thank you!

We may be reached through our adoption agency, Friends in Adoption and will gladly answer any questions that you may have for us.

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption for your unborn baby (or if you are considering placing an already born child), please know that Friends in Adoption (FIA), is kind, caring, friendly, understanding, and ethical. They are a nonprofit organization offering free adoption information for pregnant women considering adoption, without ever putting any pressure on you to make a decision.

Should you decide on adoption, FIA will provide you with the choices you have in creating an adoption plan that fits YOU and your needs. FIA will offer you great resources such as free counseling and free legal assistance. They will also support you with medical and living expenses, as the law allows.

All inquiries are confidential.

Ken & Brenna

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