James and Patrick here. We are currently sitting in our apartment waiting for our favorite pizza to be delivered and getting excited about expanding our family through adoption. We put a lot of thought into what you may want to know about us so you can make the best decision for your baby. We know these pages won’t give you all the answers, but we hope they give you a sneak peek into our lives together and who we will be as parents. If you have any questions after reading our adoption profile please do not hesitate to reach out, we are truly an open book.
Our journey together started seven years ago in Minneapolis, Minnesota. We spent our first year getting to know one another by introducing each other to our favorite restaurants, families, friends, enjoying our mutual love of music, and exploring the twin cities.
In August 2015, Patrick received a job offer that required him to relocate to Seattle, WA, surprisingly a city that James had always envisioned living in. Excited to explore a new city, we embraced our adventurous spirit and moved ourselves and our pets across the country. What we loved about Seattle was that it gave us the chance to discover new things together, as a couple. We also learned that despite the wonderful hiking opportunities that surrounded us, we loved the beauty but learned that we preferred boating, exploring the music and restaurant scene, and the city’s diversity.
After a few years in Seattle making great friends and wonderful memories, we realized that we were just too far from family, so James requested a transfer and Patrick found a new position and within a few weeks, we packed up our home, our cats, and our new dog, and headed for the Big Apple. As soon as we arrived in Brooklyn, we knew that we were home.
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—as written by James
“Maybe it’s because he is the oldest of four siblings, or maybe it’s because he grew up with 22 cousins, but whatever the reason is, Patrick has always had family at the center of his heart. He is smart, competitive, and driven, and he goes out of his way to create a loving, warm home.
After graduating from Denison University, Patrick took up a career in fashion, where he worked in the buying offices for premier retailers focusing on designer footwear. Wanting to blend his creative side with the evolving tech industry, Patrick moved to one of the largest tech companies in the world — where he works with his team to reimagine the fashion industry to meet evolving consumer demands. Outside of work, Patrick enjoys travel, musical theatre, home décor, and exploring the restaurant scene with friends and family.
Patrick is no stranger to adoption as he has a cousin who was adopted from Peru and his best friend, Casey, was adopted from Korea.
When I imagine adoption with Patrick, I imagine someone who dresses up like Mickey Mouse to deliver tickets to Disney World to our future son or daughter. I envision someone who sneaks them treats and says ‘Don’t tell dad!’. I picture someone who builds Legos with the child we adopt, and falls asleep reading bedtime stories to him or her. I have no doubt he will be the best dad in the world!”
—as written by Patrick
“James is truly one of the kindest people I know. When I first met James, I knew I had found someone who was special. We found an instant connection and simply enjoyed each other’s company — whether it was enjoying the music scene, social activism and volunteering, or a good movie night. The more and more I got to know him, I admired his quiet, gentle, calm ways. No matter what the situation, James has this amazing ability to remove himself and approach it objectively.
James has an amazing capacity to love and care for humankind. Currently, James is working for Snapchat as a recruiting manager. He works hard advocating on behalf of his team and even harder ensuring the hiring process is equitable for all applicants and holds himself and others accountable to the company’s diversity initiatives. His commitment to inclusiveness and diversity has resulted in organizing affinity groups at his past and current employer.
Outside of work, you can find James soaking up all the information the world can provide him. He is always on top of world news, human rights issues, and local and national politics. Now, people say your significant other should push you to be a better person and James is definitely that for me. Perhaps more importantly, he loves me and our family unconditionally and selflessly.
James’s advocacy and caring nature make him a wonderful uncle to our five nieces and nephews. Watching him interact with them has provided me with a small glimpse into how prepared he is to become a father. I know he will work tirelessly to ensure that the children we adopt will grow up informed, loved, and respectful individuals. James will encourage each of them to make that world a better place. Like he does for me, James will inspire and challenge our children to be their best selves.”
Our home is in a classic Brooklyn, NY neighborhood called Boerum Hill. Our community is full of century-old brownstones that are nestled along tree-lined streets. Mixed within these historic homes are neighborhood restaurants that we frequent with friends and family, the local coffee shop we stop in daily as we walk our dog Chaz, and even the pediatrician we are planning on using when we adopt a baby. It truly has a local feel with all the conveniences of the big city.
In addition to everyday essentials, our neighborhood has plenty of activities for our growing family. There are small and large parks, a zoo, a library, and plenty of parents meet-up groups for music in the park, crafts, and swim lessons. We are very lucky to live on the street with the school our future child will attend. On our morning walks with Chaz, we see parents walking hand in hand with their children for drop off/pick up, and cannot wait for the days when we are able to do the same. As we both have the flexibility to work from home, we can ensure we make every parent-teacher conference, sporting event, or musical showcase throughout our child’s life.
Equally important to what we find outside our home is what we can find on the inside. Knowing our goal of expanding our family, we looked for a home we could grow into. We found a large, open floor plan loft with outsized windows, tall ceilings, and a patio where we can enjoy morning coffee or evenings listening to music. Patrick’s experience in the fashion industry has also given him an eye for interior design and we take great pride in the look and feel of our home.
This brings us to the most special and important part of our neighborhood which is the proximity to family. Patrick’s brother Tim is a subway ride in from Manhattan and another brother Brendan, is less than a block away with his wife Ilana and newborn daughter Simi. We have weekly dinners together, which are either Friday nights with board games or Sunday night spaghetti and meatballs. We love entertaining in our space!
Our families are extensions of us.
We are who we are today because of the values our families instilled in us. We come from very different backgrounds, however, both of our families made sure we grew up knowing the importance of relationships.
James’ parents immigrated to the United States when they were younger, his dad from Germany and his mom from Panama. They met while both were in the U.S. Airforce and spent 35 years married before James’ mom passed away in 2019. His dad, 3 brothers (Daniel, Zack, Boston), and sister (Brandy) still live in Minnesota with their families. James also has a large extended family in Panama City, Panama, and cannot wait to visit them with a new family member someday soon!
Patrick grew up in the suburbs of Pittsburgh, PA where his parents, sister (Catie), brother-in-law (Ken), niece (Riley), and nephew (Aiden) all still live. Patrick has fond memories growing up, spending weeknights at soccer practice which his dad coached, weekends and summers at the neighborhood pool where he and his cousins all competed on the swim team, and Friday family pizza nights, a tradition James and Patrick still uphold with his brother (Brendan), sister-in-law (Ilana), niece (Simi), and brother (Tim).
As Patrick grew up, he was fortunate to learn the values of education and hard work. After graduating from college, Patrick’s mom taught herself accounting and graduated from law school. From there, she became one of the only female partners at her accounting firm and has worked her way to the most senior position within the tax division, where she currently sits as chair. Similarly, after college, Patrick’s dad obtained his MBA and started his career in banking where he climbed the corporate ladder and now serves as the Chief Digital Officer for a regional bank.
These fundamental values are something we both look forward to instilling in our future family.
Together, we have five nieces and nephews! A niece (Ellie) and nephew (Logan) who live in Duluth, Minnesota, as well as a niece (Riley) and newborn nephew (Aiden) in Pittsburgh, PA. In Brooklyn, NY we are lucky to be near our newborn niece (Simi). Our growing extended family means the world to us and we cannot wait for the day we can add another grandchild, niece/nephew, and cousin to the mix!
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We can’t imagine what you are going through as you consider adoption as one of the options for you and for your child, but we are writing to thank you for exploring us as the potential adoptive parents for him or her. From the moment we met, we both knew we wanted to grow our family through adoption. We are so excited for the opportunity to raise a child, and promise to do everything in our power to teach them how to be kind, creative, and smart.
We understand life can be difficult to navigate at times, however just as we have made a commitment to each other through marriage, we look forward to offering the same love and support to the child we adopt some day. Family has shaped us into the people we are today, and that same family is ready and excited to guide us into fatherhood.
Our family has shown us that being full-time parents is going to be hard work but has also shown us how rewarding it can be. We are both fully committed to doing whatever it takes to make sure our child grows up in a supportive family with all the opportunities we can provide. Whether it is teaching them to love animals, ride a bike, enjoy music, or read and write, we plan to introduce them to all the wonders of life while supporting them through the challenges.
Sending you strength on your journey,
James & Patrick
Thank you for taking the time to explore our adoption profile. We understand this decision is not an easy one, but we hope that by viewing our profile you gain a sense of who we are, what we love, and how we will be as parents. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to reach out.
We may be reached through our adoption agency, Friends in Adoption and will gladly answer any questions that you may have for us.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption for your unborn baby (or if you are considering placing an already born child), please know that Friends in Adoption (FIA), is kind, caring, friendly, understanding, and ethical. They are a nonprofit organization offering free adoption information for pregnant women considering adoption, without ever putting any pressure on you to make a decision.
Should you decide on adoption, FIA will provide you with the choices you have in creating an adoption plan that fits YOU and your needs. FIA will offer you great resources such as free counseling and free legal assistance. They will also support you with medical and living expenses, as the law allows.
All inquiries are confidential.
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